Ways to tell if you have "That" Friend

The topic of having and what makes someone a good friend has been on my mind a lot this week.  This year has been great for me in terms of making really good friends, but there were times when I wasn't as lucky.  I'm sure we can all admit that we haven't always been the perfect friend to the people we love, and the people we love haven't been the perfect friends to us.  However, there are some friends..."THAT" friend, who isn't necessarily the nicest or most considerate person in our clique on a more consistent basis.  But if you're still unclear as to the kind of person I'm talking about, I've composed a list of hints that will help you spot if you have or maybe even are "that" friend (although I sincerely hope that you have a fun, loyal, honest, trustworthy group of friends in which this post would just be for entertainment).

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They only text you when they need something - And to them, that means "anything" at any time of the day.  

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They talk about themselves...ALL the time - Friends are supposed to make sacrifices, and your friend believes that means you sacrificing your own problems to listen to theirs.

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They lie to you when you ask for their advice or opinions because why would you deserve to hear their actual opinions?  They like to agree with you no matter what, in order to avoid arguments and any of the sticky stuff that comes with having an honest conversation.

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When you just know your friend is lying (Source)

They talk about you behind your back to, well, anyone - Yes, your friend loves you most of the time, but sometimes they can't help but vent to other people when you're getting on his/her last nerve!

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They don't make conversation with your family - Even though your parents are the ones who drove the two of you to the Jonas Brothers' concert in '07, or let him/her sleep in your house for three days straight, your friend doesn't feel the need to be all buddy-buddy with your fam.  They have one family they have to speak to on a daily basis, and that's enough for them.  

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They never offer to pay the extra couple of dollars for you- It sucks when you're missing some change to pay for your Booster Juice smoothie, but it's really not their problem now is it?

When "that" friend gives you the "you're broke" look... (Source)

They drop you as soon the people around them make fun of you- "You are only as good as the company you keep" and your friend doesn't want to be associated with someone who makes them look bad in the eyes of people he/she doesn't even care about.  

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If they ever have a choice between their significant other and you, they always choose the significant other - They don't think blowing you off to be with their boyfriend or girlfriend is that big of a deal.  You should understand that the person they've been dating for two weeks means A LOT to them, ok???

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They always make excuses when they can't hang out with you - Sometimes your friend gets better offers, and he/she needs to think of a little white lie to get out of spending yet another Friday night eating pizza and watching Sex and the City reruns with you. 

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They point out your flaws or state their opinions...especially when it's most inappropriate - Their idea of being a good friend means telling you when you're "getting fat", don't have the right personality for your dream job, or that your boyfriend dresses weird.  And they believe it's best when these things are said in front of a large group of people. 

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They flirt with your crush/boyfriend/girlfriend/ex, but that's only to test your crush/boyfriend/girlfriend/ex to make sure they were, are, or will be a good and loyal candidate for you.  Well...most of the time.  On other occasions, it's just to annoy you.  Oops!

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They don't let you have other friends - You only need one person in your life, and that's obviously him/her.  Any other platonic relationships would just get in the way of the strong bond you two share.

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They write rude statuses and tweets about you when they're angry - It makes more sense for him/her to share their anger at you with the cyber world than directly with you.  That way, tension can build between you, people can gossip about your friendship, and the whole situation can become bigger than it could have been if they had just spoken to you directly.

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They don't do anything with you unless they want to do it - Remember the "sacrifice" we spoke about earlier?  Well that only applies to you.  Therefore, your friend should never be asked to sit through a boring sports game, or spend six hours at the mall shopping for something that you're clearly not going to find.  

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They say one thing, and do the other - On Tuesday, your friend tells you that he/she hates when people do something, and on Friday, you catch them doing the exact thing they said they hated.  But they can't help it...he/she is a complex person.

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I'm sure there are other ways to tell if you have "that" friend, but these are the main characteristics that no one ever wants in a friend.  As I said above, none of us are perfect, but I can honestly say that I've had friends say and do some of these things, and it feels good when those people are personally escorted out of my life.  So, if you spot any of these in some of your present friends, I recommend assessing whether "that" friend adds value to your life (in which you sit down with him/her and let them know how you feel), or whether they simply add stress (in which you do not neeeeeeeed them).  However, if you see these characteristics in yourself (myself included), we also need to be mindful of how we are treating the people who are most important our lives.  Because, quite frankly, we all deserve to have amazing friends...but to also be amazing friends as well. 

One of my favourite sayings is "relationships shouldn't be stressful", and they shouldn't!  Your friends should bring out the absolute best in you, and you should bring out the best in them!

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Reasons why I'm loving social media right now (and forever)

This post was supposed to be up on Friday, but after a series of events (TONS of homework, and my laptop's hard drive dying on me), I had to wait until today.  Another reason I've been busy, is because I've been so entertained by the internet!  If you know me, you know I'm basically obsessed with social media and all it has to offer, but this past week I've loved it even more.  Here is why!

1. Memes/Gifs

Nowadays you can literally find a meme or gif from any movie and TV show, as well as admire the creativity and sense of humour of those who create their own witty captions for ordinary images.  These memes are incorporated into so many different yet relatable situations on Twitter and Facebook that make me die of laughter.

2. Valentine's Day jokes

So yeah...Valentine's Day really means nothing to me, but the Valentine's day cards do.  They are presented as simple, hilarious "love" messages on a colourful background, bad grammar, and look like they were edited by an 8 year old on Paint.  And that's what makes them so enjoyable.

I also love the Anti-Valentine's day gifts Seventeen.com suggests.  These gifts will perfectly and explicitly portray the feelings of of bitter single girls (or strong independent females who don't need a man to know their worth), but on everyday clothing and accessories.

3. Being able to see what my old friends are up to

I haven't been out of high school for a year yet, so I don't feel the need to have conversations with each of my classmates in order to find out what they are up to.  With Twitter, I know just enough about what people are doing with their lives (sometimes I know way too much), and still have somewhat of a connection with them.

4. The creation of Vine

Roll over the vines and click on the speaker for sound!

If it wasn't for social media, apps like Vine wouldn't have existed, and that would have been a tragedy.  As I mentioned in one of my Friday Favs posts a while back, Vine is amazinggggg.  People can start, stop, loop and do and say unthinkable things in only 6 seconds, and the results always have me in hysterics.  Basically, if you don't have Vine, I highly recommend you download it!

5. World updates without a push of a button

Some people listen to the news in their cars or watch it on TV, but with just a scroll through my timeline, I can learn about world events hours before any of them.  Of course, some of the info found on certain cites should be verified by more reliable sources, but it really is nice to follow accounts that tweet about the news, and stay constantly updated and aware about local and global events.

6. You get to have this weird cyberspace family

Whether it's everyone participating in a trending topic, having a conversation with a group of people you don't see in person, or gossiping about something surprising in the news or in Hollywood, we're all a big, loving family, making jokes and bonding over our individual WiFi connections.  This is probably most evident on award show nights, where most of us tweet and update our statuses with thoughts about celebrities' outfits, performances, and awards.  It's almost like we're all in the same living room watching together :))).

7. Lightens (or should lighten) your mood

Regardless of the terrible things happening in the world or in my world in particular, I can always count on a post, tweet, Instagram picture, vine, or pin to cheer me up and improve my mood.  This is definitely my favourite part about social media; even though it has its days where users are being offensive, obnoxious, and just plain nasty, it also has this incredible ability to expose us to people we never would have crossed paths with in real life, who unintentionally and unknowingly make our day...and even give us hope in the next one.

8. I get to share my blog with my followers

The last reason for my renewed love of social media is the fact that I can share my blog posts with my followers and friends on multiple platforms.  I really appreciate everyone who takes time out of their day to click on the link to my blog, and reads what I have to say.  So THANKS!!


What have you been especially loving about social media lately?

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