Recently, I've been seeing more and more posts on social media about happiness, and people's desire to be happy, so I've decided to write a post to address this. And although I am by no means a psychologist, I would like to think that I have some insight into happiness and joy, simply because I experienced moving from feeling sad, fatigued and unconfident almost three years ago, to how I feel now: positive, cheerful, and truly happy with my life. This is not because something happened to change my life, but because I changed how I saw it. I realized that happiness is a state of mind.
For this reason, I am going to provide some tips (based solely on my experience) on how to help you end this year much happier and full of of joy than you started.
This line from the song
Pretty Hurts really stood out to me. In addition to a career, family and money, being happy is what many people aspire to be in the future.
1. Choose to be happy.
Happiness is a continual choice...keep choosing it!
I think one of the misconceptions people may have is that they need something or someone to
make them happy, but in reality, it is 100% a choice. And it's a continual choice that doesn't necessarily take action over night. You may have to remind yourself of that choice every single morning before getting out of bed, and even throughout the day, but when negative thoughts enter your mind, it is important to stay strong and honour your decision. This is where some may have a hard time, because there are so many reasons to fall back into a sad, unhappy, or even depressed state. However, if you make the decision over and over again, eventually you won't have to think about it; it will just be your natural state of mind. Also realize that without this crucial choice, none of the other tips will be as effective in bringing long-term contentment to your life.
2. Tell the people that are closest to you.
These words are all positive things that may result from telling your loved ones. (This photo was taken from
here)
A drastic change in your thoughts, mood, and attitude toward things you used to enjoy may cause family and friends to think you're overreacting or being dramatic--especially if they weren't aware or experienced what you went through. But everyone is different. Try to explain to your close friends and family what happened and how you feel about it in the best way you can. That way, they will understand why you may be acting differently, and try to help you get through this time.
3. Go on a vacation or trip.
Whether it is to a beach in another country, or a local park or café, getting away from your situation can give you time to think more clearly, put things into perspective, and face your situation when you return.
(Both of these photos were taken by my friend Warren. To see more, follow him
here!)
In the midst of my severe unhappiness, my mom and I went on vacation to see our family. I knew I'd enjoy my time away from home, but I was in for a lot more than that. I learned that there is so much more to life than the circumstance I was going through. There was so much more to see, so much more to do, and so much to be happy and thankful for. Getting away from the person, place, or thing that is making you sad, and having a good time with people who
do make you happy may give you the strength to handle your situation head-on and with better insight when you return. It may also cause you to realize that you should leave certain issues in the past, and that they don't deserve your time or effort. If you can't afford an extravagant vacation, try going on a road trip, a weekend getaway, or even to your favourite place in order to get away.
4. Write in a journal or start a blog.
Find time to write things down, so you are able to see how far you've come in the future!
(This photo is from
here, and is a part of an interesting article about journaling.)
Writing down your feelings, emotions and experiences on paper or a blog can act as an effective outlet. Document your highs as well as your lows. If you can't sleep, write down your thoughts, dreams, and aspirations. Allow yourself to get deep...and dark. Don't be ashamed of what you have to say. You don't even have to read over any of your entries. However, when you
do decide to read your journal or blog, hopefully you'll be able to see the improvements you made, and be proud of how far you've come since your first entry. Don't limit yourself to a journal: create art, write music, listen to music, start a video diary, cook, bake, exercise, or take classes that interest you. Do anything that allows you to express yourself, release any animosity, and get you back to enjoying fun activities...and life.
5. Figure out what's best for you.
Do you feel better when you are going out with friends....
....or staying home and relaxing with a good book?
During this time, some may feel overwhelmed being around a lot of people and choose to be alone, while others may want to surround themselves with friends and loved ones to help them forget about what they are going through. My advice is to see how you feel in both situations. Do you like having time alone to figure out your next step in this journey toward happiness, or do you find yourself thinking about how sad you are when you are by youself? Do your friends help you get your mind off of your situation and genuinely make you feel good, or do you feel lonelier than ever when you are in a crowd? Really consider this, and figure out what you like better, and then do this as much as you can. Don't get carried away. Remember that you shouldn't isolate yourself from others, but also shouldn't spend every moment with someone else; you still need
some time alone to reflect.
6. Seek help!
Stay strong, keep calm, and seek help! (This photo is from
here.)
As I said earlier, these tips are not medical--I don't have a university degree, never mind a PhD. If you truly do not feel like yourself, and have felt this way off and on or for a prolonged amount of time, see a doctor. If loved ones are concerned, you may owe it to them and yourself to look deeper, and see what is going on from a clinical perspective. Your situation may have triggered something more serious and long-term (such as depression, mood disorders, anxiety, and even medical illness), and you should seek help. Remember that getting help is not a sign of weakness; it shows that you value yourself enough to be your
best self. Try to be strong and courageous, as opposed to afraid or embarrassed. You can do it!
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to tips for leading a happier life, but I hope you try some of them! However, if you feel like you or someone close to you may be struggling with depression or any other mental illness, visit the
Canadian Mental Health Association or
Mental Health America website, or contact your local associations for further information and assistance.
Make sure to check me out on Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest. Have a wonderful week!
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